Just a theory…

Counteracting the effects of love.

Do I believe in love? Yes. Do I believe that I have felt love at it’s greatest? Yes. Do I believe that I have loved to my fullest extent? Yes.

But, of all things given as face value, love is the least accountable for. It provides a falsehood of security within itself. An endless question. A moment of heart, lost within mind. There are many explanations of this, and we could go on and on. In this case though, see it as how you want to believe it.

But remember…

People fall in and out of love every day, every hour, every minute. Did that surprise you when it happened to you? Did you want to give in, break down, and cry yourself to sleep? Sure, go ahead, but for a moment only. Do not allow yourself to fall into a pathetic state of mind. Things are meant to be, so obviously that love was not one of them. And you should not give up on life just because you had a chance at love, and it didn’t turn out the way you wanted. Look at this way – Was the whole relationship a total waste? Of course not, because at that time, you had no idea what you gained from loving, even if it were actually losing.

Here’s a good quote I came upon one day…

All my failings were preparations for the day I met you.

In some way, that must be true. Think about it. Could you have loved the next person, without knowing the love you had before. Maybe, maybe not.  But, never think of love as a failure. Each time that love passes you by, another love is given. A love stronger than the one before. Obviously, we as humans, need that to learn and to live. For we do not know in ourselves the capability that we own.  Only half of us see it in this perspective (sort of like – is the glass half empty or half full). And if you gave up after the first or second try, what good is that? A person must find their own rights and wrongs, before they can truly love another. Think about it, if you knew that loving someone would hurt so badly, you wouldn’t have done it in the first place. There is a 50/50 chance at all we do in life. Why not take the risk, leap totally into faith, and let fate be the decider. I’ve jumped, and believe me there was no bungee cord wrapped around my waist. So I have hit ground. And hard ground at that. But, that will not stop me from taking the jump once again, I will only be wiser when choosing where I want to land.

My advice…

Do not give up on something that might have not been in the first place.